💔 When Words Become Wounds: Understanding Verbal & Emotional Abuse

Sometimes, it’s not the shouting that hurts the most — it’s the quiet words that echo long after the conversation is over. Verbal abuse doesn’t always sound loud. It can come in the form of constant criticism, subtle sarcasm, or those little comments that make you second-guess your worth and erode your self-esteem.

It might sound like:

• “You’re too sensitive.”

• “You can’t do anything right."

• “I was just joking, why are you overreacting?”

  
  

You start to wonder if maybe they’re right. You try harder to please them, to earn their approval, to be “good enough.”  You try your best to be a people pleaser, but no matter what you do, it never seems to be enough.

That’s the trap of verbal abuse — it slowly convinces you that the problem is you.

But here’s what you must realize: it’s not you. You are not the problem.  You are not broken. You are not unworthy. You are not too much or not enough. You are a human being who deserves kindness, respect, and peace.  If it feels heavy, you are not at peace.

You are, and always have been, the most important person in your own life.

💬 Verbal vs. Emotional Abuse — Which Hurts More?

People often ask, “Which is worse — verbal abuse or emotional abuse?”

The truth is, they’re deeply connected. Verbal abuse is one form of emotional abuse. The words someone uses against you become emotional weapons — slowly eroding your confidence, your self-trust, and your sense of safety.

Emotional abuse may also include manipulation, gaslighting, or control — but verbal abuse is often the doorway that leads to all of it. That’s why it’s not about deciding which is worse; it’s about recognizing that both matter. Both can leave invisible scars that take time, patience, and compassion to heal.

Reclaiming Your Power

If you’ve experienced this kind of pain, I want you to pause for a moment and take a deep breath. You’ve survived something heavy. You’ve endured words that were meant to break you, and yet — here you are, still standing, still searching, still hoping.

That’s strength. That’s resilience.

Healing begins the moment you decide that you no longer want to live under someone else’s definition of who you are. It’s time to take your power back.

You deserve to feel confident again. You deserve to wake up without fear of what someone might say. You deserve relationships where your heart feels safe, not small.

You can’t change the words that were said to you, but you can change the way you speak to yourself from this moment on. Speak kindness. Speak strength. Speak truth.

Because your voice matters — and it’s time the world heard it again.

You Are More Than What You've Been Through

There are over 10 recognized forms of abuse, but verbal abuse doesn’t have to define you. With support, education, and community, you can rebuild your self-worth and learn to thrive beyond survival.

Let this be your reminder: your voice matters, your story matters, and your healing matters.

If you’re ready to do more than just survive your past and truly begin to thrive, I’m here to help. I specialize in guiding women through the deep work of overcoming the lasting effects of abuse, using a powerful, comprehensive coaching method. Together, we’ll create meaningful goals that not only break the limiting beliefs rooted in your past but also dissolve the patterns that could otherwise shape a future of more pain. You don’t have to stay stuck — real change is possible. Call me at 214-793-4332 to schedule a conversation and take the first step toward the life you deserve.